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(NIV)XxN$F$$F$x$^I>Specific Treatment Areas (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)&?*& Spiritual Increase Pursuit of Holiness-Maturity Ideational (Mindset) Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Behavioral Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Relational Increase Male Non-Sexual Friendships nZ&ZnZ Z nZ"Z nZ%Z B$%"$B$   $ B#"! B$% ]HESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& Spiritual:Affirmation of Self-worth & Christ-likeness Homosexual Urges vs. Behaviors (Acting-Out) Initial Ideation & Urges not sinful but legitimate Heterosexual Ideation & Urges are not sinful Developed Ideations-Plans are sinful:  Lust Mat 5:28 Assure of God s Patience in Forgiveness Acceptance  Go and sin no more&  Leave your life of sin John 8:11 Learning to Trust God in Recovery & Healing  Stock-Market Trend:  Cyclical-Rise improvement Prayers & Worship: Heavenly-Earthly Father06Z,Z3Z-Z6Z(ZCZ,Z2Z+Z6,3-,    (    - ,2+ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& Ideations: Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement Desperate crave for intimacy and acceptance Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts Neediness and affirmation needs Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts Accountability partner-tell a friend Medication: SSRI s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) Fluoxetine:Prozac, Sertraline:Zoloft, Paroxetine:Paxil+5,f 2%=7+ 5,f 2  %  B+B7B63ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& Behaviors:Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Check-in with client weekly: Accountability How did it feel afterwards?  Good but bad! Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Positive-Negative reinforcements Commendations, Loss of spouse, rubber-bands Medication: Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil help,ZVZ,ZMZ,Z'Z,V,M,'+-ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& >Relational: Increase Male non-sexual friendships Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males Develop insight of over-adulation and devaluation Develop courage to befriend attractive males Sexual-attraction desensitization, ego-stability  I m one of the guys!  I can t believe I belong! 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Men are weak! (g06`KLSpecific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)M'%& Confront and Resolve the Painful Issues of Safety as a woman Reconcile with mother s hurts Not responsible for mother s pain: Mother s keeper? Trust man again as vulnerable but benevolent Father as weak or hurtful (but not all are that way) Reconcile with father s dysfunctional background Re-embrace womanhood as okay Femininity does not equal vulnerability (weakness) Woman relationship can be emotionally gratifying It s okay to be like mother: Bake, cook, lipstick, etc.,ZZSZ-ZfZZZ, S-f  ,.LSpecific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)M'%& HAcknowledge-resolve sexual abuse(s) Work through pain to develop male-trust again Reconciliation with Mother and Father Say goodbye to girlfriends Attempt to embrace femininism Put on a dress? Try cosmetics. 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