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Wong, Ph.D. ÞIP^ZSX Licensed Clinical Psychologist ChristianMentalHealth.com 220 Montgomery St., Suite 1098, San Francisco, CA 94104 1357 Mowry Avenue, Fremont, CA 94538 Tel (510) 794-8898 Fax (510) 475-1473F&P+<$c&(,   * 11(+YY[^ܕ|NNIY }fN 24:158 cBa c/f`OPNNIY6Tp N}Y Ne1\SNxd@bNIYv/f`OPRVy(W'Yl@bNIYv^ybT/f`OP@bOO0WvNid)RNv^ybTebTb[ bP_[NIY6T0 0 But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD." Jj<c c c l   VF'Y7uN;NN+YY[^ܕ| c1 eSO (caPq})vV } Nw NvSa gw NvSa gw gvSa [YePq}vV }  _afe S N PV }S܀?`Ovxd/fNHN?nZnZnZ nZnZc-c$c0 c $c$l$227usYvN c1g1c1 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 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Timing!):HZS&$ (-88!Accept the feelings of your wife?""Listen to her talk without interrupting her Repeat what you heard her say Use eye contact all the time when you talk Do not give your advise unless she asks you Hold her hands, shoulder or body when the talk becomes emotionally charged Ask her how she feels at least daily! Let her cry unconditionally, don t personalize it! Avoid  Hot-button words:  Why? I know! Stupid! Dumb! Shut-up, etc. &P3E99How to Make your Wife Secure? (If she doesn t get your first priority: You lose! Talk with her daily: Minimum of 30 minutes Smile at her each time you see her Learn how to manage your parents, in-laws Be there during PMS and don t judge her Don t criticize her driving Respect her choices of clothes and foods Introduce your wives to your friends openlyTDZ #::/Pre-requisites of a Loving & Protecting Husband*0(JMust be able to  love oneself first ;;:N+YaYP[Y Ta]:O g` N_@bf 5:28-31,c( $   N+Y_Nvugq#jaYP[ Y Ta]vP[aYP[O/fa]N0 _Ol gNh``]vP[ =~O g` ckPWcw_YegN#j VbP/fN NvԚ0 gSwSR1\/fNvNv00 p P}Ee N▋6rk YP[#T NNbpNԚ0r c$c$c$c$c$c$c$c$c$     YI/Pre-requisites of a Loving & Protecting Husband*0(,Must be able to  love oneself first Able to know the time for renewal Able to establish personal growth pattern: Successful resolution of the leaving process Has at least 3 close male friends to relate Has a mentor and confidant (accountability) Able to be secure and committed<<YP[v҉rTwN cHPRKb uRN 2:18 6T0^y 0NhsE\ N}Y bpN N PMvPk^RN0^)c6 ac)c)aH  H N_@bf 5:22 `OP\OYP[v vu g]vN+Y Y T g;N0n%c6 ac/c/ c/aH==What Husbands need from Wives?*He needs you to be satisfiable: Make him feel successful in loving you. 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