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Wong, Ph.D. ÞIP^ZSX Licensed Clinical Psychologist ChristianMentalHealth.com Info@ChristianMentalHealth.com 220 Montgomery St., Suite 1098, San Francisco, CA 94104 Tel (510) 794-8898 Fax (510) 475-1473F+<c"$(   +The Ethics of ChangeIs Ego-Dystonic Homosexuality a Disease? What is unwanted Same-Sex-Attraction? Homosexuality vs. Gay? Genetics versus Environmental influences Hamer  Gay Gene LaVey  Brain Dissection Pillard & Bailey  Twin Studies Change is possible! Needs motivation!6)&)&J?Wall Street Journal Commentary: Psychiatry and Homosexuality Robert L. Spitzer, May 23, 2001 200 Liberty Street, New York, NY, 10281`P( ( What I found was that, in the unique sample I studied, many made substantial changes in sexual arousal and fantasy -- and not merely behavior. Even subjects who made a less substantial change believed it to be extremely beneficial. J!P9EK@?Sexual Attraction Scale Mean (100 = same sex, 0 = opposite sex)@#(LA` Markedly or  Extremely Bothered by DepressionMBHChange effort was  Very Helpful in& Treatment IssuesFactors affecting prognosis Therapist/Client match Transference/Counter-transference issues Object Relations Nonsexual male relationships Group therapy The role of father and religious support groups0UF>Specific Treatment Areas (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)?*& Ideational (Mindset) Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Behavioral Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Relational Increase Male Non-Sexual Friendships Spiritual Increase Pursuit of Holiness-MaturityP P P"P P%P P&PB$ $ B#"$ B$%"  B $%"$ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& Ideations: Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement Desperate crave for intimacy and acceptance Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts Neediness and affirmation needs Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts Accountability partner-tell a friend Medication: SSRI s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) Fluoxetine:Prozac, Sertraline:Zoloft, Paroxetine:Paxil+5,f 2%=7+5,f 2  %  B+B7BRCSDJThe Physical Intimacy-Orgasmic Cycle (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)K%%&  Intimacy Always Feels Good!  Emotional Intimacy Leads to Physical Intimacy!  Physical Intimacy Can Lead to Orgasm!  Orgasm Always Feels Good!  Orgasmic Feeling is Intimacy? Physical Intimacy is an Antidote for: Loneliness, Low-Self Worth, Boredom, Aggression, Anger, Despair, Abandonment (Applies to Heterosexuals and Homosexuals) P&Py&BN+F*,ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& Behaviors: Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Check-in with client weekly: Accountability How did it feel afterwards?  Good but bad! Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Positive-Negative reinforcements Commendations, Loss of spouse, rubber-bands Medication: Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil help-ZVZ,ZMZ,Z'Z-V,M,'TE Addiction-Acting-Out Cycle Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000$A# 4Compulsivity Deprivation Impulsivity Satiation8FZP5+-ESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& >Relational: Increase Male non-sexual friendships Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males Develop insight of over-adulation and devaluation Develop courage to befriend attractive males Sexual-attraction desensitization, ego-stability  I m one of the guys!  I can t believe I belong! Learn to keep relationships: reduce jealousy Group meetings-activities with guys Attend regular self-help groups: EA, SA s, Exodus1Z)Z2Z-ZZ$Z2Z1)2-$  1WHESpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)(F*"& LSpiritual: Increase Pursuit of Holiness-Maturity Connected to a place of Worship Accountability set up with a mentor Social connection continues at church Serving a church in some capacity Can engage in devotion, prayer, and quiet time Accept God as heavenly father: Present, graceful Able to disclose story with trusted people Begin a caring effort with SSA people: Classes Do not see self as a SSA person:  As one of us 1Z Z$Z&ZZ+Z_Z &B $&+  _ :Femininity Identity Crisis & the Development of Lesbianism*;((!(Great hurts and pains from males Fathers who failed or abused them Believes mother is weak as a woman Rejects self as women; Rejects womanhood (Pain) as being unsafe Sexual abuse-promiscuity resulting in men-hating  If I can be a man I will be safe from harm! Multi-layered-loose clothes,  Walk like a man, talks like a man  I hate make-up  It s oppressive-sexism-slave! "P"P#P@P_ZrZ"$" #@ _r  $&&What do Lesbians say about themselves?''$ I m unhappy with being a woman; it s weakness  When I discovered the gay bar, I finally came home  I feel like I am a man in a woman s body I don t need men, I hate-despise them!  I am more  homo-emotional than homosexual  Smoking, alcohol and drugs are cool!  You don t understand how we love, it s better!  Women is a stronger sex! Men are weak! (g06,.LSpecific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)M'%& HAcknowledge-resolve sexual abuse(s) Work through pain to develop male-trust again Reconciliation with Mother and Father Say goodbye to girlfriends Attempt to embrace femininism Put on a dress? Try cosmetics. Try high heels Have feminine affirmation by male-females Involve with women s groupsj$Z.Z_Z.ZFZ$._.F&(New Male BehaviorsSelf-Acceptance: Body-Comfort: I m okay! Male-Resocialization: I am one of the guys! Mother will be okay if I let her go! Mom, do you want a son or a nurse? I can t be both! Accountability Person: No more secrets! Female-Resocialization From  I want a masculine woman who is not dependent To  Women can be feminine and they are attractive. t{Z4Z(ZPjZ{3(j')Emergence of the New-Self,Overcoming the Expectations of Old Community Change always unstablizing: Courage to move on Rejection of others:  You have Changed! What happened? Establishing a New Social Paradigm Relationships are Neutral-Mutual: Non-Shame based Male Non-Sexual Relationships Female  Non-Default Relationships: No more  Safe-Retreats Female Emotional-Physical-Sexual Relationships Overcoming Fears: Enmeshment, Physical-Sexual  Space Dependency vs. Initiative Behaviors:  Take a Lead! Making a Commitment: Litmus Test of Enmeshment Resolution -PgP#PPZ,/8#P</6  4  ;  //What is Healing & Recovery?@TPresence or Absence of SSA  Orientation ? 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Gender-Identity formation, sexual abuse and enmeshment will be included as foundational understandings. Trauma and shame-based compulsive cycles will be discussed to introduce the concept of how sex and the various manifestations of sex can be conceptualized as an addiction in the gay scene. Specific counseling techniques will not be included, instead the basic recovery segments will be discussed. Issues such as the gender of the counselor, over-adulation and devaluation, and stages of the recovery will be explained. Finally, the realistic expectations of counseling will be used to conclude this presentation.6:ZZ"% fH < 0cNo~ ? ̙33&? 0 @lv(  ld lc $   d l3 rĦcx}x}#" 0e9 d  d  We developed specific questions for these key homosexual indicators. Sexual attraction during a one year period on a subjective scale that goes from 100 (exclusively homosexual) to 0 (exclusively heterosexual). The subject picks any number from 100 to 0. Lustful thoughts or daydreaming about having sex with the same sex  from never, a few times a year, a few times a month, a few times and week and every day in a one year period. Same sex fantasies during masturbation  the percent of occasions of masturbating Same sex fantasies during heterosexual sex  the percent of occasions of sex. Yearning for romantic emotional intimacy  again, from never to nearly every day. Homosexual behavior with excitement. $EH l 0cNo~ ? a(@ 0 e]`t(  td tc $   dQ t3 rcx}x}#" 0e9 d  d S The next group of slides, on various indicators, contrasts BEFORE, with AFTER. First, mean sexual attraction scores for males and females. Remember, 100 is exclusively same sex, and 0 is exclusively opposite sex, BEFORE and AFTER. Both males and females, on average, BEFORE, are in the very high homosexual range. AFTER, on average, they are in the high heterosexual range, even more so for the females. 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Spitzer, May 23, 2001 200 Liberty Street, New York, NY, 10281@Sexual Attraction Scale Mean (100 = same sex, 0 = opposite sex)9“Markedly” or “Extremely” Bothered by Depression+Change effort was “Very Helpful” in…Treatment Issues@Specific Treatment Areas (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)GSpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Slide 10LThe Physical Intimacy-Orgasmic Cycle (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)GSpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)F“Addiction-Acting-Out Cycle” Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000GSpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)GSpecific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000);Femininity Identity Crisis & the Development of Lesbianism'What do Lesbians say about themselves?NSpecific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000)New Male BehaviorsEmergence of the New-SelfWhat is Healing & Recovery?Religious Support Groups  Fonts UsedDesign TemplateEmbedded OLE Servers Slide Titles